Talk About Respect...

There's a lot of talk about "getting respect" lately...

Respect to me... comes in many forms. You can respect a person for a lot of different things.

You may respect someone simply because he's older than you. You may respect someone because he has been doing something for longer than you do. You may respect him/her for the skills/proficiency you don't have. Or respect him for his attitude, his passion, his character...Lots of things. Sometimes, respecting him in one area doesn't mean respecting him in everything.

You must think I'm very bo liao... what the hell am I talking about. Example, a student respects a teacher because he is "older" and "more knowledgeable about a certain topic". But if this student got like extreme talent in drawing/music the teacher doesn't have, the teacher can shwo the same respect to the student skills.

Okay, I'm getting to my main point, which is: Respecting someone doesn't mean you're inferior to him. Respecting a person for his skill doesn't mean you respect his character, his attitude, etc...

A very famous quote going around here: 有理由就是XX，没有理由就是XX

XX contains certain vulgarities...so not very convenient to type it out. It talks about seniority and reason. Those who know will know. LOL.

Back to the topic. There's a lot of people that I respect for their skills. Like skill in soccer, skill in 把妹, the ability to talk their way out of anything, the ability to instantly build rapport with everyone, etc... But it doesn't mean I condone or agree with their behavior.

Nobody wants to be the bad guy I believe, but eventually someone have to be one in order to get things down. Example, which parents would want to beat their kids if the kid follow everything they do?

But remember, being the bad guy doesn't mean you have to be a bully. It doesn't mean pressing your authority and beating down everyone else. And then you talk of the disrespect you get.

When you want respect, you need to do "swee swee" for other people to see also. Only then will people respect you. Not "talk one way do another way"...

In the end, I think the "BEST RESPECT" is when people respect you in entirety as a person. It definitely beats those "numerical respect" like seniority, age, status, salary, etc...